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Reflections - Its a roller coaster ride all the way
Jaya Smitha  Menon
Author:Jaya Smitha Menon
Freelance Journalist
Food for thought from my daughter
Wednesday 26th, November 2008

It sounds ridiculous. To evoke fear and submission they resort to gross violence. You guessed it right am talking about the terrorist attacks. After serial blasts in Bangalore, Ahmadabad and Mumbai now it is serial firing that has rocked Mumbai, As I was going through the rediff reports on the serial blasts, I could easily visualize the fear and shock in the minds of the victims and the onloookers.

I experienced a similar shock, when Bangalore which was relatively free of the terror plots became a victim of serial blasts. On July 25th when the news of serial bomb blast came in, I was in my desk, busy with work. All I had in my mind was deadline and delivery. But when the news came in I stood shocked for seconds. Madiwala was the place where my daugher’s crèche is located and Mysore Road was where my brother was at that time to check his admission in Visveswaraya College. That was followed by frantic calls and enquiries to ensure their safety. It took another 2 hours for all of us to come together and till then I had sent umpteen number of prayers above, praying for our safety.

Till then I lived in the world of deadlines and deliveries. Those were realities to me. I hear about blasts and violence and diligently condemn them. But it never ruled my mind and it died probably much before its news value. But not anymore. Today, every single day I drop my daughter in the crèche, my heart misses a beat when I think –What if something goes wrong today? Now I check news sites and channels at regular intervals not with the curiosity of a journalist but with the anxiety of a mother.

Between January 2004 and March 2007 the death toll from terrorist attacks in India was 3,674, second only to Iraq during the same period, according to the National Counterterrorism Center in Washington. The exact death toll of the serial firing which still continues is yet to be verified.

The attacks will certainly affect tourism, which climbed 10 percent in the first nine months of the year to 3.87 million visitors, generating $8.8 billion in revenue, according to government figures. Foreign direct investment into the country more than doubled between April and August to $14.6 billion.

Yesterday, as me and my husband were seriously discussing the serial firing amidst watching the stories appearing in the news channels, my 3 year old daughter came to me and asked what is it all happening in TV. To make sense to the three year old I told her some men who were not good at heart killed others with gun. She kept quiet and sat watching the proceedings in the television. After some time she came to me and asked “Mama, if I hit my friend in school you tell me we should not hurt anybody and even scold me. Why that uncle’s mother never tells him not to shoot anyone and hurt anyone?” . We did not have an answer. Till then we were discussing about how India’s intelligence beurue should be more alert and we should tighten up security at all important places, how tourism will be affected and what not.

But she underlined one single point which probably is the most important one in today’s scenario. If every parent/ guardian takes the characterisation of the child as one of the most important thing in their life, probably we will have better hopes from the next generation. We should not forget we belong to the country where one man with his silence and ahimsa, turned the whole world to him and brought freedom to the country after 100 years of slavery.

Well my daughter defenitely gave me food for thought!

 
Comments
Comment 1: By anand kumar on 07th Jan 2009
realy fact our country people afraid after this event should required a revolution to prevent and we should take lession frm israil

Comment 2: By VINOD KUMAR on 07th Jan 2009
I am really touched with the write up.

I really rememebered a instance after reading the thoughts of the child. Once when I was in one of my friend's house for some party. His son was playing with some other child. Suddenly, for some toy they start fighting and I was surprised that their mothers' were not said anything to them. When I asked why have they not stopped them. They said in today's world, for becoming the children smarter it is important that they should answer the quarrel like this only. In one way I felt that they are encouraging them to take revenge. Everybody has a fear if they stop their child he become coward.

People nowadays are more concentrated in good education & high qualification for their children nobody is bothered about character.

Comment 3: By Suresh Mangaladurai on 23rd Dec 2008
Neglect of children and the lack of importance attached by them to the development of their children's character is the cause of most ills prevalent in our society today. If only each & every parent were to instill proper values in their children the world will be a better place to live in. Nice post.

Suresh.

Comment 4: By sunny agarwal on 22nd Dec 2008
it is nice

Comment 5: By Ashok Kumar on 07th Dec 2008
Hi Jaya,
All the comment is very nice & i fully agreed with..
God bless to all,
Ashok Kumars
Freelance writer (Mumbai)

Comment 6: By Mahesh Iyer on 06th Dec 2008
The child is the father of man! It's so very true. We have a lot to learn from the innocence of children.

Comment 7: By ranjith kumar on 06th Dec 2008
Its good

Comment 8: By Atul Gupta on 06th Dec 2008
I can't help but relate to this as my daughter (7 yr) was also glued to the TV for the 2 days we watched it and somewhere on the second day he wrote a letter to God asking him to punish the terrorists and that when she grows up, she will also become a commando.

I guess it is difficult to put our finger on one thing that is the reason behind it, but it definitely should bring us to say - act ! if not now, when?

Comment 9: By prathaba rutheran on 06th Dec 2008
Hi jaya, What u think is absolutely right. The same thinking was in my mind when i saw the incident of Chennai Law collage. I asked the parents of the students that they are ready to accept it!
Parents have more responsibility of socity.
Every parents should realise it.
Your daughter's thoughts were wonderful.

Regards,
Prathab


Comment 10: By prakash trivedi on 05th Dec 2008
A Beautifully woven blog, Jaya. Your profile suggest u r a freelance journalist. This is something m terribly interested. Would you please help in being a freelance journalist like any journal, newspaper that I could write for.. I also belong to bangalore so u can even call me if u so wish... meanwhile you can find some of my blogs on http://ibnlive.in.com/cfs/blog/52742/2017


Comment 11: By Ranodeep Sen on 03rd Dec 2008
Dear jaya,Indeea a nice way you have put the things and made it simple.
I feel the root cause of all these is the unequality and lack of respect for others.Just have a look at the interview/interrogations of azam(the sole terrorist caught )in Times of India today,and see the reasons that drove him to take up all this.
We cannot stop terror in a day or two...But yes we can stop new people joining it....thus we will be able to one day stop terrorism in the long run.

Comment 12: By Gautam Deshmukh on 01st Dec 2008
Nicely Written & very simple
KIU

Comment 13: By Umesh Chhikara on 01st Dec 2008
definitely food for thought!these kids are too smart and lets hope they stay like this and change the world with their good learnings.

Comment 14: By navamani solairajan on 28th Nov 2008
Hi jaya, What u think is absolutely right. In my school days I was stdying at Chennai in hostel and spend my school days there. That was the time there were lot of bombs that blewed in coimbatore my parents were staying there.
I was in 6 or 7th std everyday I would keep wondering afraid and chekcing the news magazines whether everything is alright and I used to call my family every now and then to ensure everything is alright. I can understand the pain u went through.

India has to be taken more care fom the terrorism that keeps rising... Its good to see your article.
Your daughter's thoughts were wonderful.

-Regards,
Navamani

Comment 15: By Gunjan Sinha on 27th Nov 2008
Nice article, as it raises the important issue of how do we fundamentally bring about change through small acts of kindness and tolerance, and how we prepare the next generation to help build a terror free society.

Comment 16: By Vimali Swamy on 26th Nov 2008
what do i say.. li'l children though innocent often open the eyes of the so called grown ups in ways that one can not imagine... questions that reflect the stark reality in the simplest of ways and leaves one dumbfounded... truly its the values that the parents inculcate in children that shapes their character in the years that go by.. if we want a better tomorrow for the gen next then its in our hands that we raise our kids in with a sense of the right from wrong, peace and humanity.. may the gen next see a better 2mrw..

Comment 17: By vijay kumar on 26th Nov 2008
No child is born bad. It is how they have been grown up. Nurturing good ideas and thoughts towards the wellbeing of others and ownself can lead to a child think in a broader vision about the society. Let us hope our "New Generation India" follows this and hope a "Terror-Free India" at the earliest. Thanks for your child for breaking the ice. But this is only a tip of the iceberg. Thanks a lot.

Comment 18: By Rajesh G on 26th Nov 2008
As said child is the father of man,in the way your daughter showed you a way where by a big problem could be resolved in a smarter way. Mothers are real makers of the child, if they are able to imbibe good virtues in them nobody can lead them to the path of terrorism and destruction

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