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Kishan Chandranna
Author:Kishan Chandranna
Engg at MindTree India
Why do Friends quarrel?
Wednesday 25th, June 2008
I felt really sad today after watching my friends quarrel.. As I say always, I look out for positives in every possible situation.. So, I thought that this would make a good topic for my next article.. So this is me starting off for you,

We might fight with our parents, brothers, sisters and strangers too, but when you fight with your own friends, it really hurts.. I main reason I feel for a fight between two friends is "Misunderstandings" and "Ego clashes"..

When we get closer to our friends, our expectations rise which might result in a fight when our expectations are'nt met.. This point was given by Nidhi.. I am mentioning this as I feared a fight with her if I chose not to do so..

I have seen people becoming great friends after they had a grudge with each other for a long time.. So, do friends really get close after a fight? I feel that they do as they get to know the importance of each other only when they miss the other.. So, should friends quarrel to get close? I would say that it depends as some might get closer even without a fight and some choose the other way..

Sometimes, when friends are'nt too close to each other, they assume certain things and due to misunderstandings, a fight is resulted.. This happens when there is a communication gap between them.. This is the root cause for a quarrel.. If there is'nt any communication gap, I bet that there won't be any quarrels..

A fight always results due to a small issue and that issue can be resolved very easily only if we give it some thought.. But usually in the heat of the moment, we will be out of our minds and don't find that time to think and this usually results in a fight..

A fight might result when we trust some third person more than our friends.. Bear in mind, the third person won't come to your rescue when you have landed in a spot of bother, its your friend who does.. So, lets learn to trust our friends more atleast from now on..

All of us have to take a leaf out of Chethan's attitude when he comes under the hammer.. He usually enjoys the moment along with his friends when they tease him.. I bet we have'nt teased anyone else more than Chethan.. It is this attitude of his that many people admire..

So, I conclude by saying that we all have to learn to be like Chethan when we are teased and enjoy the moment.. And Chethan you better don't change.. We will continue teasing you more even if you change.. We just believe in having some fun by teasing our friends..

Today it might be Chethan under the hammer.. Tomorrow, it might be me.. It might be someone else the day after.. All of us intend no harm to anybody when we tease.. Just that we have to take it in the right spirit and learn to enjoy the moment..

Lets all forget what has happened today taking only the positives out of it and continue to be friends for ever.. Signing off..

Regards,
Kishan Chandranna
 
Comments
Comment 1: By rashmi jain on 02nd Jul 2008
I think the foundation of any relationship is understanding.

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