My name is Vandhana Veerni and my father
was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma in 1993. My father was 52 years
"young" (he
prefers to state his age that way. He hates calling
himself or
anybody so-many-years "old"). He was born on
the
Christmas day of the year 1941.his experiences and also
help others in all ways he can. He lives in Chennai, India. He grew up
all over India, by the banks of the Ganges, in highly populated metro
areas, and in a small suburb in Chennai working for the government in
a factory that made combat tanks. He is a teetotaler. No smoking,
drinking alcohol or any other vices. Not even enormous amounts of
caffeine. And throughout his life he has had a very, very strict diet
and does not eat red meat. So it was a total shock when he was
diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma.all started innocently enough. My
father is a very energetic and active person. He is involved in a
multitude of organizations providing social care to lots of people in
India. He was employed by the Government of India, Ministry of
Defense. My father is the 4th of 9 children born to his parents. All
along, his leadership skills and selfless attitude made him the most
loved at home and work and everywhere he went he conquered hearts. I
can proudly say that, thanks to him, at least 200 people in Chennai,
India have jobs today and he helped personally educate another 100
children or so. And at no time did he expect any credit for his deeds
or any return for his good work. The reason I am mentioning all this
is you have to understand what kind of person he was and how many
people loved him to understand the impact the diagnosis made on
us.been riding a scooter to work and all his extra curricular
activities for over 20 years now. So we assumed it would be something
to do with his riding on the pot holed roads. He just
rubbed in
some pain relievers and back to his busy self. But this
pain
kept nagging him for a long time when he decided to see
a
doctor. First he consulted a Orthopaedic surgeon and the Dr
felt
he might have a slipped disc. It was the first shock. From
a
perfectly healthy person, who had not a single day of
illness
(other than another struggle he had with Jaundice),
this was the
first problem they said he had. So he was advised
to take it
easy, lay off the 2-wheeler and get some
physiotherapy and put
himself on traction once in a while. For
some time this seemed to
provide a lot of relief. But the pain
persisted. Then he was
hospitalised to take some aggressive
physiotherapy. That seemed
to work too. But only temporarily.
AFTER he was back home for a few months he was unable to even walk. He
used to depend on me and my brother (my brother for the most part) to
even lift him so that he can use the facilities. The in December 1993
came the clincher. One morning he woke up complaining for
breathlessness and was sweating profusely and also had some chest
pain. So we rushed him to the hospital and there they said he had a
mild myocardial infraction. He was in intensive care and seemed to
recover remarkably well. When they did routine tests on him there they
noticed that his ESR count was 150. That triggered some alarms in the
Drs' minds and they advised him to have some thorough blood work. That
is when they found proteins in his blood. What followed are the most
harrowing moments of my adult life. He was asked to take a bone marrow
test and that confirmed the Multiple Myeloma. We went to 6 hospitals
not believing the initial diagnosis, hoping, praying that the first Dr
was wrong... but alas that was not to be. My dad had the dreaded
disease.He was referred to Dr. Sethuraman, a haemotologist who has
been his doctor since then. If we all saw god in real life it was in
this good doctor. From there on, he treated my father primarily on
oral chemo and steroids and brought the disease under control. My
father achieved remission in 1997. All was sunshine again. Meanwhile I
completed my studies, was employed and got married and moved to the
USA. I was 7 months pregnant last year when disaster struck again. His
Myeloma relapsed and he had moderate to severe LV dysfunction. I
rushed to India and was by his bedside for 2 weeks. He visibly
improved.
he started fighting the disease again. I am amazed by his
mental
strength and pray to god to give him much much more.
Within a
year his LV dysfunction is totally gone and the cancer
in under
control again. Again our knight in shining armor is
Dr.
Sethuraman. And of course, the Hero is my father. His fight
is so
valiant that every day I thank god for giving me such a
Gibraltar
for a father. To this day he continues his good work,
counseling
school children in their careers, counseling
socially and
economically backward families, counseling men
against domestic
abuse and training people to become better
employees and better
humans. Even as I am writing this story
for you he is in another
town, training people on Quality
Management. And no, he does not
travel by car. He travels by
public transport as millions of
others in India, often standing
in crowded buses, not asking for
a seat because he is a sick
man. He pride and strength make me
feel so small and
insignificant when I think of the small
ailments I suffer from
time to time. Truly he is Viswanath,
meaning Lord of the world.
I hope his story brings hope to several others fighting this cancer
and their families too. Throughout his struggle he did not try to hold
us back. I have a younger brother and he wanted us to reach out and
fly to our dreams never once stating his health as a reason to bind
us. I live in the US and my brother is in the Indian Army. My father
lives alone since my mother is visiting
with us for a year. I
hope and pray that god gives him a long and
peaceful life. The
world needs more people like him. You can
write to him in case
you need some counseling too. He is a
wonderful person and I
hope it gives you all hope that this
disease can indeed be
fought against.