Infidelity of mind is the issue which is being raised time to time; Be it people’s reaction to ‘Kabhi alvida…’ or  Recent research report “Genes may be to blame for infidelity” whatever but this issue has been raised time and again  among our country where relationship maintain fine line of beauty with values and norms.  Is counter sex whenever in relationship apart from being married is questionable? Or having platonic relationship after marriage is not justifiable. Some says it is not advisable but dangerous also to have platonic relation with people of opposite sex, as there exists a tendency to get carried away and ethical code of conduct is violated? Why is that so

Platonic relationship - a relationship between a men and women where sexuality works on an exhalted plane, a short of physical contact. Can one justify such relationship, that if it needs to be justified? Anyway which way you look, there are arguments and counter arguments, because for every contradiction there is a justification, and for every refutation a befitting rejoinder.

We know opposite attracts “if all women would be across the sea, what good swimmers men be!” It’s an intrinsic law of nature. This chemistry between the opposite that we casually refer of sexuality is the creative force of universe and for both it acts on different planes: emotional, physical and spiritual. Its said men’s are from Mars and women are from Venus they are like opposite poles more the closer worse/better the attraction.

 We don’t mean that every men or women we meet or speak to attract to us sexually. But think of a situation where people are reasonably close, and have a comfortable equation with their counter sex. Very few people amongst us who would be able to cross their hearts and say that no naughty thoughts would enter our heads during course of such a relationship. But what we do with such thoughts isn’t it a critical issue: Infidelity of mind, which we skip for time being.

  Infidelity in marriage this is what we want to talk about. Now what married had to do with it?  By raising this issue we didn’t mean that one should be ceased to be attracted to other once you are wedded. Certainly not! But social norms enjoy in upon you not to indulge yourself. You may practice self denial or you may define equation as platonic and hold it there. But we are talking of a situation where you share more then gossiping with each other. Does shade of physicality enter here? A certain glance or n madvertent touch on the arm is a natural extension of closeness you share? But we choose to ignore the basic instincts, and the relationship remains safe.

This attitude of friendship is truer of women. Being married and having a male friend is justified and it doesn’t violate your marital wows. But people, who indulge in such kind of relationship without approval of their spouse, are surely treading on slippery grounds. And they have to sometime loose their innocent friendship in due course of disapproval you my think that your spouse is jealous he may be or he may be sensing something which you are denying consciously or unconsciously, a certain chemistry that’s not in your control but this put your marital harmony at stake here.

So it’s essential to know where to draw a line. If you rely on inner censors, are honest with spouse, have got your priorities right, and can strike a balance between families and friends, misunderstanding will not rise and you would not lend yourself in mess. And if you are more adventure at your heart, and go head with relationship without your spouse approval you are playing with fire don’t you?

We don’t say people can’t look for platonic relationship. But they should be clear what they re looking in relationship. If you are looking at it with boy –girl angle then connation may be different. A married person too can share this kind of relationship with their counter sex but what really important is keeping the relationship t a level where it remains platonic.

There rent many takers of this kind of relationship their, however. Many feel clinched platonic relation re best-read in books. Can u young single/married women befriend with a man without rising doubts regarding its true color? If it is felt that most men and women subscribe to this kind of relationship can, t any unguarded moment veer towards the realm of romance- good thing if two friends are willing to add new dimension to their relationship, and a bad thing if the feeling is not reciprocated by one of the friends, or if someone else is being hurt by it.