” You can win life by all means.. yes… by simply avoiding two things… comparing and … expecting “

” If people start criticizing you, hurting you, shouting at you.. don’t be bothered. Because in any game, spectators make noise, not the player. So just play on !”

” Its hard to lead a cavalry charge if one thinks that he looks funny on a horse !”

” There are only two people who can tell the truth about yourself.. a friend who has lost his temper, or an enemy who starts loving you.”

What is it about harmony that it is so difficult to achieve. The world needs it, humans need it, families need it, teams and corporates need it, neighbors both domestic and geographical need it.. we all need it.

Who are these people that consider harmony to be a goal that is unachievable, an emotion that is untouchable, a desire that cannot be fulfilled. They are enemies of God that wish so. Salvation for them shall not fructify. They shall live burning in their own stew - unpalatable and full of distaste.

Look at the effort they take to create disharmony. How much damage they must cause for themselves to entertain those ill -gotten thoughts and deeds. To continuously keep manufacturing ideas and ways to cause harm, to annoy, to deliberately accuse and criticize. To make effort to size down the other. To build and manufacture hurdles so that the others fall or are made to face an obstacle where none exists.

What good does it do to people that hibernate in meanness and wretched demeanor. How do these people dwell in such environs. Does not shame and indignity fill them with fear. Or are they not conversant with such attitude and its consequences.

Why do they do it.

Is it that they suffer from a complex that brackets them with the inferior. Are they genuinely inferior, or do they bring it on themselves by the company they keep, or the company that permanently resides in them. Being inferior is not a crime. You would have to be in superior company to assuage that inferiority affects me. And what if you are. Would it not be prudent to be aware and learn, than to ignore and possess a false sense of guilt. A guilt that could destroy, if you decided to succumb to it. Or the opposite. Where you allow the inferiority to breed another drastic ailment - persecution. A state you believe where each and everyone that comes in contact with you only wishes you ill, only rejects you and your thoughts. A state where knowing that you will be persecuted, you begin by building defenses. Defenses that were never required in the first place. Defenses that seemingly protect you, but factually construct vulnerability within.

You need the world to move with you. To share and bring comfort to each other. To bond and to develop. To progress and expand. If you shall see error in all facets of life, would you be able ever, to see correction.

In isolation perhaps you could be immersed in your own pity. In company though you would most certainly become the outcast. One who consistently rejects. So the dangers there are the immunity you would have transferred to the other. They knowing that they shall face rejection from you, shall distance themselves. Mankind shall move away from environments that are not conducive to his/her taste. Mankind moves on, but where does this leave you.

It leaves you alone and bitter and wretched. Wallowing for the rest of your life on how it did not treat you fairly. But the truth is, where indeed was your effort and desire to not be so. That individual decision shall need to come from within.

Change. Change could be detrimental in some and exhilarating in other. Take the risk. Change. And face the exhilaration of life !!

Love you -

Amitabh Bachchan