Does early bonding with dad affect kid's academics?
A father’s influence upon a child’s
academic success later in life is felt the most when he’s involved from the
very beginning, according to a new study.
Fathers
are typically called only "when the child is going to flunk, is going to
get expelled, is getting held back or is exhibiting a behaviour problem, which
would account for the negative relationship." "Men typically don’t become engaged in
the school process until there’s a problem. Then you have the big conference
where both parents come in, sit down and sort everything out," said
McBride.
But if a father hasn’t engaged with a child before they go off to school,
"there’s even less likelihood he’s going to be engaged even when there is
a problem in school. "That’s why
it’s not hard to understand why men don’t become involved in the school process
that much, because they’re not involved early on in the process," he
added.
Fathers and father figures, he says, can have at least as much of a unique
impact on a child as mothers do, and therefore should be seen as co-equal
partners in parenting "We need to
help fathers realize that what they do is really important. If we wait and only
get fathers involved when kids are having problems in school, that’s too
late," McBride added.
Typically, when children are sick, there’s a "high probability that
daycare or school will call the mother and not the father first," he said.
Not necessarily because the mother is better informed about the child’s health,
McBride said, but because "that’s how they’re socialized to think, that
Mom is the only one who can respond in that situation."
He said these analyses suggest that we need to think more about men, fatherhood
and what role they play as parents. "We need to look at the bigger
picture, because these analyses all point to the same conclusion: that men and
women each contribute uniquely to child outcomes," he said. "
"Any chance we get to help men discover what fatherhood really means to
them and give them a model toward that engagement."
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