Recession-hit parents are finding it hard to explain why Santa couldn't get kids as many presents as he used to.

But she says, "Children, in their heart of hearts, don't want a lot of things from their parents as much as they want love from them and time with them."In the long run, it's love, shared time, and quality interactions that they'll remember."

Don't be overly apologetic for what children are not getting. Although it's okay to acknowledge a child's desires or even disappointment, parents are encouraged to focus on those things for which the child and family can be grateful.

Parents should try to be upbeat and positive. If they are, children are more likely to be positive. Think about what the family can do together that is fun and memorable and treat it like a gift.

Leading up to Christmas... Instead of going shopping, design time around what your kids enjoy and make that special. Make plans to bake cookies and drink hot chocolate, play a favourite board game, or shoot hoops at the park.

For teenagers, things often become more important. But, teens are also old enough to understand when parents explain that money for expensive items just isn't in the family budget this year. For the items they most want, parents can work with them on a longer term plan to save for those things.

Parents should not make promises they cannot keep. They should be honest with children about what they can or cannot afford.

If a family has to cut back, a parent can use the opportunity to emphasize that their relationships are the most important thing. "It comes down to communication," Buchanan says. Parents can look for ways beyond presents to convey their love for their children.