10 principles for Peace of Mind..
1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked.
Most
of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others'
affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our
way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do
not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the
right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of
individuality and consequently the existence of God.. God has created
each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act
in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because
God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you
will keep your peace.
2. Forgive And Forget:
This
is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill
feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us.
We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep,
development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or
injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by
constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short
to waste in such trifles. Forgive,20Forget, and march on. Love
flourishes in giving and forgiving.
3. Do Not Crave For Recognition:
This world is full of
selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without
selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power,
but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your
achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to
kill yourse lf in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is
not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.
4. Do Not Be Jealous:
We all have experienced how
jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you work harder
than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions;
you do not. You started a business several
years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose
business is only one year old. There are several examples like these
in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody's life
is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become his/her reality. If
you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you
are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be
gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you
anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.
5. Change Yourself According To The Environment:
If you try to change the
environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead,
change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the
environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change
and seem congenial and harmonious.
6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured:
This is the best way to turn a
disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous
inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that
are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them, we
must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them
cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of
patience, inner strength and will power.
7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew:
This maxim needs to be remembered
constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are
capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your
limitations. . Why take on additional loads that may create
more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external
activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer,
introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your
mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater
peace of mind.
8. Med itate Regularly:
Meditation
calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest
state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate
earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will
tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and
half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before.
You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily
meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily
work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will
be able to produce better results in less time.
9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant:
An empty mind is the devil's workshop.
All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in
something positive, something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do
something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value
more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work orÂ
religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a
sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting
physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of
God's name.
10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret:
Do
not waste time
in protracted wondering " Should I or shouldn't I?" Days, weeks,
months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can
never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future
happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It
does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your
mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead
to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past.
DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was desti ned to happen only that
way. Why cry over spilt milk?
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