Meet With Your Mind
Martin
was returning to work in his London office after spending two weeks
with his brother over in New York. He was coming back with a heavy
heart. It was not just that it was the end of a wonderful holiday; it
was not just that he invariably suffered badly from jet lag; it was
that Monday mornings always began with a team meeting and, over the
months, he had grown to hate them.
Martin
was aware that colleagues approached these meetings with hidden
agendas; they indulged in game-playing; and he knew that people were
not being honest and open. The meetings themselves were bad enough -
but then there was all the moaning afterwards. "The usual people saying
the usual things". "I could have improved on that idea, but I wasn't
going to say". "I was thinking of making a suggestion - but I couldn't
be bothered".
As
this morning's meeting began, Martin braced himself for the usual
moroseness and monotony. But, as the meeting progressed, he became
aware of a strange background noise. At first, he thought that he was
still hearing the engine noise from the aircraft that had brought him
back to London - he had had to sit over the wing and the droning was
terrible. But, as he concentrated on the noise, it became a little
clearer.
He
realised - to his amazement - that he could hear what his colleagues
were thinking as well as what they were saying. As he concentrated
still harder, he found that he could actually hear what they were
thinking at the same time as they were speaking. What surprised him,
even more than the acquisition of this strange power, was that he
discovered that what people were saying was not really what they were
thinking. They were not making clear their reservations. They were not
supporting views which they thought might be unpopular. They were not
contributing their new insights. They were not volunteering their new
ideas.
Martin
found it impossible not to respond to his new knowledge. So he started
to make gentle interventions, based more on what he could hear his
colleagues thinking than on what he could hear them saying. "So, John
are you really saying .." "Susan, Do you really think that …" "Tom,
Have you got an idea on how we could take this forward?" He was aware
that his colleagues were unsettled by how insightful were these
interventions. They looked at him mystified. In truth, he felt rather
proud of his newly-acquired talent.
Emboldened
now, Martin forgot his usual misery at participating in such meetings
and began making comments of his own. However, he became aware that
some of his colleagues were looking at him quizzically. One or two even
had a gentle smile playing on their lips. Only gradually did it dawn on
him - they could hear his thoughts and he was not really saying what he
was thinking.
As
the meeting progressed, Martin became aware of changes to the tone and
style of the event. It was clear to him now that, one by one, each
member of the meeting was learning how to hear the thoughts of all the
others and this was subtly changing how they inter-acted with one
another. The game-playing started to fall away; people started to speak
more directly; views became better understood; the atmosphere became
more open and trusting.
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