• Accurately read other people, including the emotions they’re feeling and the unspoken messages they’re sending.
• Create trust and transparency in relationships by sending nonverbal signals that match up with your words.
• Respond with nonverbal cues that show others that you understand, notice, and care.

She adds that “Unfortunately, many people send confusing or negative nonverbal signals without even knowing it. When this happens, both connection and trust are lost in our relationships.” Trusthas always been THE single most important component in consummating a sale. Lacking that element makes it much more difficult to close.

I think that most people would agree that we all could probably improve on our nonverbal skills. One simple exercise to try on the next person you interact with is to pay particular attention to the color of their eyes while they are speaking. Doing so will require you to really study that person’s face, and their eyes in particular. This will naturally cause you to focus even closer on what they are saying, and in turn, convey a message that you are really in tune with what they are trying to communicate.

Here are a few very common ones that you may see in your showroom. We’ll use a boat store for an example:

> Customer puts their foot up on the boat or trailer- this shows a sign of staking out their claim- saying “this is mine” (GOOD SIGN)
> Yawning – they are not focused on what you are saying (BAD SIGN)
> Feet pointing towards the door- watch for this after you present a price- says they want to get out (BAD SIGN)

Here are some additional examples that you may want to pay attention to, both for your own body language as well as your customer’s:

Confidence/Comfort

• Posture – standing tall with shoulders back
• Eye contact – solid with a ’smiling’ face
• Leaning in
• Touching on arm or shoulder
• Gestures with hands and arms – purposeful and deliberate
• Speech – slow and clear
• Tone of voice – moderate to low

Defensiveness:

• Hand/arm gestures are small and close to his or her body
• Clenched hands
• Facial expressions are minimal
• Body is physically turned away from you (check the direction of their feet too)
• Arms are crossed in front of body
• Legs crossed can also indicate a “closed mind”
• Eyes maintain little contact, or are downcast

Deception:

• Eyes maintain little or no eye contact, or there may be rapid eye movements, with pupils constricted
• Hand or fingers are in front of his or her mouth when speaking (also might mean they want to say something)
• His or her body is physically turned away from you, or there are unusual/un-natural body gestures
• His or her breathing rate increases
• Complexion changes such as in color; red in face or neck area
• Perspiration increases
• Voice changes such as change in pitch, stammering, throat clearing

Certainly facial expressions provide a lot of cues, but picking up on some of these subtle gestures will help you know what your customer is really thinking, and should help you know if you need to change course with your presentation.

In conclusion it’s important to note that body language is not the same for every single person. A single gesture or attribute does not necessarily tell the whole story. Asking questions is still the best way to make sure that you are picking up what they are laying down.