“I am right” is something most of us believes when we’rearguing about something. We are passionate in our opinion, even when provenwrong. It is very difficult to accept that we may not be right sometimes. Whatwe need to understand is that the other person just happens to be correct in thisinstance.

Everyone gets married with stars in their eyes. But soonyou wake up to the reality that the person you marrried has ideas about thingstoo. It may not always match what you think. Even people who have been in lovefor a long time and believe that they know everything about one another maydiscover that there are serious differences between them. Whether you knowneach other for a lifetime or you had a quick whirlwind romance on a tropicalbeach, be prepared to accept the fact that marriage present differences ofopinions, from what type of toothpaste to buy to how you feel about money.

1. First, you must be willing to give ground to yourpartner once in awhile to avoid a perpetual cycle of arguing. The rigidness ofyour position can be a constant source of conflict between you and yourpartner. Ask yourself, is it really worth it to win this issue?

2. You must be prepared to understand that your wife orhusband is an individual with their own personal likes and dislikes. Do notexpect him or her to be your reflection. Even you and your siblings aredifferent from each other, even though you lived with the same parents in thesame house. Discover how to turn your lmarriage into a long honeymoon, despitearguments and differences.

3. Once you can accept differences it becomes easier tocompromise. Learning not to sweat the small stuff will protect yourrelationship from being bogged down in petty arguments. There is conflict inrelationships, the goal should be to resolve it amicably without tension andhostility toward each other.

4. Stopping arguments and working through conflictsrequires having a selfless approach to your relationship. There has to be awillingness to do things that your partner enjoys. It’s what being in love isabout, and you will discover that the two of you have a more satisfying andinteresting life together from the things you share. You may come to appreciatethose differences you have with your partner, after all, those qualities aboutyour wife or husband is what attracted you. It is why you fell in love withthem.

5. After a heated argument, take time to remind yourselfwhat you love about your wife or husband, how they make you feel. See if thatdoes not cure you from wanting to be right or having your way about something.You should feel a tug at your heart letting you know that your wife or husbandis much more important to you then being right and getting your way. The nexttime you have an argument with your wife or husband, ask yourself what is thisdisagreement about? Am I trying to have my way or be right?

6. The objective should be to voice your feelings, toexpress what you want to say about an issue between the two of you. There mustbe a willingness to agree to disgree. Each person position about an issueshould be appreciated and respected. No one in the relationship should feelimposed upon by the other. If you try to change each other, it will result inconflict, which leads to arguments. Living with someone meanscompromising!Loving someone means accepting what you can not change about them.

7. Remember, variety is the spice of life, withoutdifferences life would be boring.