That is because "controlling" behavior is generated by a deep anxiety that relates to you "not being in control" of others and your environment. If you think about this for just a moment, the idea that you might feel powerless and vulnerable to your situation inevitably engenders anxiety and with it a need to stem those feelings inside of yourself.

Well, what "better" way than to "control" those factors that are making you anxious, correct? Wrong!

Why wrong? Well first because it’s impossible to control everything in your environment. Just try and you'll see what I mean. No matter how much effort you put into it you'll still feel anxious and drained at the end of the day. What's more this will only feed into your feelings of powerlessness and vulnerability and make the situation worse.

Secondly, the problem is not in the uncertainty that is inherently part of your environment, it is in you!

What is that problem you ask? Well for each individual there are "emotional landmines" (please see my article on Emotional Landmines" in this ezine) that trigger inner states of unpleasant feelings such as anxiety, fear, shame, guilt, envy, jealousy, inadequacy, low self worth, low self confidence etc.

Such landmines were conditioned in you while you were growing up as a child. They are held deep in your mind and body and have a life of their own, much to your detriment.

When something happens in your life that triggers one of these landmines inside of you you will experience, at some level, one or more of these unpleasant feelings. Now because they are "unpleasant" there is a tendency, also learned from early childhood, to try to extinguish the feelings.

One of these, as I mentioned is to try to put out the "triggering" stimulus in the environment. Well that's like trying to prevent individuals from stepping on a real
landmines when you don't even know where they are .

Isn't it better first to locate them and then diffuse them once and for all? Doesn't this approach leave you feeling more secure, more peaceful, with more energy, more relaxed, etc?

Well there is a new modality called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) (MRP) that can do just that with your emotional landmines.

If you'd like to learn more then kindly visit the web link below where you'll find an audio example of MRP free for you to download and experience.