There have been some very interesting responses to the question under debate on the last post and I am grateful to those that have come in and participated. It is endearing to know that so many feel and express views. It comes across as an issue being discussed on the dining table of the family as they sit and talk. Such a delight to find everyone a devoted part of the Extended Family !!

I have spent much time now on the foreword for Madhushala and believe that my incompetence in doing justice to it shall prevail. However, it will be done one way or the other.

I take some comfort in the fact that my father too found writing foreword’s a cumbersome process. He mentions that in many of his musings that I have been going through. Honesty in expressing what he truly felt was his hallmark. Not many appreciated that, simply because those he wrote for, expected praise. If the subject was worthy of it he would gladly mention it. If not he would honestly deride it. Not many had the courage to do that.

In life at times we face similar dilemmas. Who to say what to and when. And when we do would it be received in the spirit of frank honesty or apprehension of misunderstanding. Vital opinions essential for the moment have the misfortune of getting covered in a blanket of silence and muted for fear of disturbing the object of comment. Sometimes with disastrous consequences. So generally the easier path is taken. Better to be quiet and not lose a relationship than otherwise.

Relationships, though have their own graph. Many in them expect that you speak up. It demonstrates strength and belief and confidence of understanding. If.. both parties remain on the same plain. Many a times it is this very plain that becomes the cause of the disturbance.

Delicate !! Difficult !! Sensitive !! Undecided !!

Most would rather not ruffle the feathers.

I sometimes exercise discretion. I find myself taking it upon myself rather than passing it on. And a simple philosophy to justify that. Better one troubled being than two !! Better me than he.

I leave it today at that for the moment. This is even shorter than what most expect and it is not due to the desire of some. Indeed many have wanted extensive conversation. I respect that and shall comply. But presently ..

Till then..

My love

Amitabh Bachchan