According to the Gita, anger sprouts forth from desire. Men generally think that desire means the wish to gain money, property, material wealth etc. This is also desire, but the real desire is things should be favorable to us, they should happen our way. If things are not favorable to our will, our likes, we get angry.

What right have we to get our desire satisfied by others without reciprocity? Let us not insist on getting our desires satisfied. The main reason for wanting to get our desires fulfilled, is our pride, a feeling of superiority. If we truly want peace, let us root out our pride because it is at the root of all demoniac traits. All the other demoniac traits of Kaliyuga such as anger, greed, infatuation, jealousy, fraud and hypocracy etc. depend on pride. Pride is where all of these malicious traits originate. So if we do not renounce pride, how can anger be overcome?

So, what is the method to root out your pride? Simply speaking, those who disobey us and don't do as we wish, are helping us in rooting out our pride. While those who do as we wish, strengthen our pride. So in earnesty, those that disobey us, are actually our well-wishers. Therefore, if we want our welfare, it is beneficial for us that others do not do exactly as we wish. These individuals are helpful well-wishers in removing our pride. Though they intentionally are not wanting to remove our pride or do good to us, yet their disobedience, is weakening and removing our pride. Do we want our welfare and benediction? or do we want a downfall or boost in our evil tendencies?

Gita says "Dambho darpobhmaanacsh krodha." (Gita 16:4). "Pretentious pride, conceit, arrogance, anger, harshness and ignorance arise in one born of demoniac nature." (Gita 16:4). Therefore those who disobey you are bringing forth divine virtues in you.

When pride subsides, anger will automatically subside.

Children don't learn by giving "discourses" or by "talks". They learn by your "conduct". They have fantastic capacity of "observing". Hence if you want your daughter to shed anger, NEVER show anger or appear angry when she is around. Also, ensure children don't nurture inside them too many "desires". Fulfill them before they "arise", if possible. Say "no" politely but firmly to any "unreasonable" demands. Don't let desires to get rooted, get unfulfilled and thus let the same manifest by way of anger. Give without their demanding to the extent you can, what is necessary.