A home's three C's

When I became a real estate agent, I discovered something about home buyers: A lot of them cry. Right in front of you. After a few times I began to understand. This is a high-pressure, extremely emotional decision. No house will ever fully live up to your dreams, and whatever compromises you make (and you'll have to make some) you'll be stuck with for years.

I've never met anyone who was totally rational about evaluating a home, but the way to get closest, I've found, is to break the process into discrete parts. Just as diamond buyers focus on four competing criteria (carats, clarity, color and cut), home buyers need to consider a home's four Cs: cost, condition, capacity and convenience.

The worksheets on the following pages have helped my clients weigh those factors and make the inevitable tradeoffs with fewer tears; they should work for you too.

A home's true cost

I see a lot of buyers make a basic mistake: When deciding if a particular house fits their budget, they look only at listed price and their probable mortgage payments.

But to make an honest comparison of the houses on your list, you must consider all the costs you'll be facing. In addition to mortgage payments, there are maintenance costs, property taxes and homeowners association fees, utilities and insurance.

Your total outlay should be no more than a third of your gross income (ideally, less).

Define 'acceptable' condition

Unless you're buying brand new, expect your home to need some upgrades. Just be sure the issues aren't structural (such as those under "red light" below, which your home inspector can help you identify).
Better to go with a home needing cosmetic work ("green light") or at least a less extensive overhaul ("yellow light"). The investment you make in resolving these will improve your quality of life while living there and increase the resale value.

Consider capacity

To squeeze into a budget, you might have to get a smaller - wait, I'm a real estate agent: cozier - house than you'd like. So forget about square footage, often a misleading number. More important is how that space is allocated. These questions will help you evaluate whether the space in a house fits you.

Does it have enough closet space? Rather than look at the number of closets, measure the length of them (for instance, six feet in the hall, two in the kids' rooms and so on). Compare the total with that of your current home. Also, take along a hanger to make sure the closets really are deep enough for clothes.

Are there enough bedrooms? One of the most awkward moments for a real estate agent is when the husband counts the bedrooms and says "We'll all fit," then the wife gets a gleam in her eye. Ideally, you'll know your family's expansion plans before shopping. Since that's not always possible, consider whether there's room for surprise long-term guests, be they kids or in-laws. If you can't afford extra bedrooms, is there an area that could be converted, like an attic or a basement?

Does the kitchen suit my needs? Think about whether there's space for you, your family and your guests - as well as your cooking gear. (I've seen kitchens with cabinets too shallow for a microwave.) Don't forget about the fridge, which can be costly to replace: A family of four needs at least 22 cubic feet.