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What is forgiveness
Forgiveness is a gift - like receiving a beautiful bouquet of flowers.
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It releases you from your own claustrophobic prisons - the invisible ones you never see but are nontheless there.
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It's the upward path - the path less taken - the path to greater freedom.
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Forgiveness is always the wisest choice; and then it makes you wiser.
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Forgiveness frees up the clutter - the mental and emotional clutter that slows you down and causes so much frustration.
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Forgiveness fosters all growth and change.
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But most of all, forgiveness is a never-ending flow of energy you can tap into.
Forgiveness is essential for all healing.
Forgiveness is your inherent right as a human being. You have the right to forgive yourself and you can claim and demand that right anytime you wish.
It's inherent - meaning it can never be taken away. You always have the ability to fully and completely forgive yourself. (As long as you know how, that is.)
So why don't we?
Because So Few People Know How
Powerful Forgiveness Really Is.
"Forgiveness?! Isn't that what women do?"
To many, forgiveness seems weak and ineffective. Almost laughable. Our modern world offers little space - or time - to forgive yourself. Or to even ponder the idea. Often, it's seen as weak - and you're seen as weak - if you pursue forgiveness.
So few people see the value in it. So few know the joy that comes from freeing up that 'log jam' of trapped emotions.
Forgiveness takes strength and gives power.
Forgiveness returns your power.
You will regain more of your power every time you truly forgive yourself. It returns power that belongs to you - power you can use any way you wish.
You need your power. You need to hoard it, guard it, and use it wisely. The problem is, so much of your power has been lost - either stolen or given away - to the world, to other people in your life, and to your past.
Forgiveness offers the fastest, easiest and most elegant way to start retrieving your power. The amount of lost power you retrieve with forgiveness depends upon two things:
1. How long ago the event happened you want to forgive.
2. How much emotional energy you've invested into the event.
"To Err Is Human - To Forgive Is Divine"
Another misconception many people hold is that only God can forgive you. If you believe that - wake up! You've already been forgiven by your Creator. Now it's up to you to follow through.
It's arrogant to not forgive. It's like saying you know better than God what's right for you.
Beware of the trap that says,
"I'm not good enough to forgive myself."
Many people feel they don't deserve to be forgiven - even by themselves.
So often we just won't let ourselves off the hook. We'd rather carry pain around with us because we think it's what we deserve.
Plus, we want to punish ourselves before someone else does.
If you don't forgive yourself - then most likely you'll go around 'beating yourself up' mentally. And you'll never get rid of the emotional pain you feel in your heart.
You'll have a harder time dealing with the events in front of you, because your vision and focus have been diverted into those thoughts and feelings you can't let go of.
It's like dragging extra weight behind you. You can't even see it, but everyone else can.
Maybe it's time to drop the pain. Maybe you've suffered enough. Maybe you're ready for relief.
You are the warden to your own prison. Forgiveness is the key that can get you out.
So How Do You Forgive?
As you convince yourself forgiveness is a good thing, the next question becomes - how in the world do you do it?
Maybe you've said the words - even meant them - but nothing really changed. You didn't feel the release that happens when you truly forgive yourself. Maybe you didn't feel anything at all.
Remember - forgiving yourself is your birthright.
It's a skill you can learn. Then, whenever some problem, some situation, some issue comes up in your life that seems unsolvable... you'll know what to do.
There was a time when you didn't know how to take a shower. You needed help. Now, of course, you don't even think about it. Someone helped you and showed you exactly how to do it.
Just as you mastered the skill of taking a shower and you can also master the skill of forgiving yourself. I'd like to show you how to do it.
I've been working with this technique of forgiveness almost ten years now. I've used it hundreds of times. I've taught hundreds of others how to forgive themselves as well.
It does require a few materials, but you probably have everything you need laying around the house somewhere. It should cost less than five dollars if you need to go out and buy them.
Please understand, just saying the words, "I forgive myself" does very little or nothing at all. You must follow a specific sequence of events. You have to do something besides sitting there and saying a bunch of words.
You must be deliberate. Clear. Forceful.
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It releases you from your own claustrophobic prisons - the invisible ones you never see but are nontheless there.
*
It's the upward path - the path less taken - the path to greater freedom.
*
Forgiveness is always the wisest choice; and then it makes you wiser.
*
Forgiveness frees up the clutter - the mental and emotional clutter that slows you down and causes so much frustration.
*
Forgiveness fosters all growth and change.
*
But most of all, forgiveness is a never-ending flow of energy you can tap into.
Forgiveness is essential for all healing.
Forgiveness is your inherent right as a human being. You have the right to forgive yourself and you can claim and demand that right anytime you wish.
It's inherent - meaning it can never be taken away. You always have the ability to fully and completely forgive yourself. (As long as you know how, that is.)
So why don't we?
Because So Few People Know How
Powerful Forgiveness Really Is.
"Forgiveness?! Isn't that what women do?"
To many, forgiveness seems weak and ineffective. Almost laughable. Our modern world offers little space - or time - to forgive yourself. Or to even ponder the idea. Often, it's seen as weak - and you're seen as weak - if you pursue forgiveness.
So few people see the value in it. So few know the joy that comes from freeing up that 'log jam' of trapped emotions.
Forgiveness takes strength and gives power.
Forgiveness returns your power.
You will regain more of your power every time you truly forgive yourself. It returns power that belongs to you - power you can use any way you wish.
You need your power. You need to hoard it, guard it, and use it wisely. The problem is, so much of your power has been lost - either stolen or given away - to the world, to other people in your life, and to your past.
Forgiveness offers the fastest, easiest and most elegant way to start retrieving your power. The amount of lost power you retrieve with forgiveness depends upon two things:
1. How long ago the event happened you want to forgive.
2. How much emotional energy you've invested into the event.
"To Err Is Human - To Forgive Is Divine"
Another misconception many people hold is that only God can forgive you. If you believe that - wake up! You've already been forgiven by your Creator. Now it's up to you to follow through.
It's arrogant to not forgive. It's like saying you know better than God what's right for you.
Beware of the trap that says,
"I'm not good enough to forgive myself."
Many people feel they don't deserve to be forgiven - even by themselves.
So often we just won't let ourselves off the hook. We'd rather carry pain around with us because we think it's what we deserve.
Plus, we want to punish ourselves before someone else does.
If you don't forgive yourself - then most likely you'll go around 'beating yourself up' mentally. And you'll never get rid of the emotional pain you feel in your heart.
You'll have a harder time dealing with the events in front of you, because your vision and focus have been diverted into those thoughts and feelings you can't let go of.
It's like dragging extra weight behind you. You can't even see it, but everyone else can.
Maybe it's time to drop the pain. Maybe you've suffered enough. Maybe you're ready for relief.
You are the warden to your own prison. Forgiveness is the key that can get you out.
So How Do You Forgive?
As you convince yourself forgiveness is a good thing, the next question becomes - how in the world do you do it?
Maybe you've said the words - even meant them - but nothing really changed. You didn't feel the release that happens when you truly forgive yourself. Maybe you didn't feel anything at all.
Remember - forgiving yourself is your birthright.
It's a skill you can learn. Then, whenever some problem, some situation, some issue comes up in your life that seems unsolvable... you'll know what to do.
There was a time when you didn't know how to take a shower. You needed help. Now, of course, you don't even think about it. Someone helped you and showed you exactly how to do it.
Just as you mastered the skill of taking a shower and you can also master the skill of forgiving yourself. I'd like to show you how to do it.
I've been working with this technique of forgiveness almost ten years now. I've used it hundreds of times. I've taught hundreds of others how to forgive themselves as well.
It does require a few materials, but you probably have everything you need laying around the house somewhere. It should cost less than five dollars if you need to go out and buy them.
Please understand, just saying the words, "I forgive myself" does very little or nothing at all. You must follow a specific sequence of events. You have to do something besides sitting there and saying a bunch of words.
You must be deliberate. Clear. Forceful.
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