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How To Deal With Difficult People In Your Life?
How To Deal With Difficult People?
Everyone has some difficult persons to deal with. In fact, everyone is difficult at sometime. And, that's ok. But if someone is difficult all the time, then you should know that that person is evil or negative. If you are a philosopher, you may argue that there is no good or evil, and it depends on one's perception. It is a very wrong view. There are good people like the Buddha, Christ, Gandhi and so on. Similarly, there are evil people, like Hitler, Bin Laden, Saddam Hussein and so on. How do you identify the evil people in real life? There are some characteristics to look for:
1. Totally, totally self-centered: They don't care about anyone else except their own pockets and their own welfare. They are ready to cut someone's throat if there is a gain for them. Social service or helping others is not their concern at all. If they engage in such activities, there is an inner agenda behind it.
2. Angry: Often their anger is uncontrollable. They can be provoked without any obvious course or motive. It's as if they are angry for anger's sake.
3. Violent: Often their rage leads to violence. They easily hit others or pick fist fights. When they are violent, they lose all control and lose their mind. They take delight in killing bugs and worms.
4. Homicidal or suicidal: They can be either homicidal or suicidal for no compelling reasons at all.
5. Negative: Their perception often is focused on the negative aspects of life. They always see something bad in everything. Before they open their mouth, 'no' rolls off of their tongue. They seldom say 'yes' easily. You cannot get approval for anything from this person.
6. Illogical: Their arguments are illogical. They shift their argument from minute to minute and don't ever know where they are. You can easily see that there is something wrong with them.
7. Hate of psychologists and psychiatrists: It is very difficult to get these people to a mental health appointment. Deep down inside, they know their issues and want to avoid dealing with them.
8. They deny: These people are in denial of everything. They don't want to look at their mistakes, but think that they are the smartest and most successful and everyone else is not.
9. They curse: They curse anyone who doesn't agree with them or crosses their path. The first word they use is 'die.'
10. They are users. They are shameless and use others for their own benefit. They always stop to conquer, but if someone else asks for help, they take off.
11. They are ungrateful: They forget to help the people who have helped them. They are totally ungrateful. They never acknowledge others, but on the contrary, ridicule them.
12. Their way is the one highway: Either it's my way or no way, is their policy. They don't mind being lonely, but they are unwilling to compromise. They never accept it was their mistake. Often, the mistakes are 'somebody else's' and not theirs.
13. Insecure: They are insecure. They are the most insecure people in the world. They think that the whole world is against them and often they suffer from low self-esteem problems.
14. No true friends: They often have no true friends. They are very private and closed. As a result, there is nobody around them. They have a big trust issue. Not only do they not trust others, but themselves.
15. They have an opinion on everything: They never accept their lack of knowledge. They always have something to say, however, absurd it may be. They are ready to advise others often.
16. When proved wrong, they yell and scream: They don't take criticism well. When proved wrong, they yell and scream.
17. They often have a split personality: They often speak contrary to what they have inside.
Now, the million dollar question; what do you do with them? STAY AWAY! You can't do very much!
If for some compelling reason you have to be together, then you can try to do something. Consciously send them your love energy and keep sending it till you start seeing a difference. At that time you know for sure that you are enforcing a change and soon that person would be under the control of your love energy. I have done that to many people and have had outstanding success.
If you'd like to know the techniques, I can help you.
Everyone has some difficult persons to deal with. In fact, everyone is difficult at sometime. And, that's ok. But if someone is difficult all the time, then you should know that that person is evil or negative. If you are a philosopher, you may argue that there is no good or evil, and it depends on one's perception. It is a very wrong view. There are good people like the Buddha, Christ, Gandhi and so on. Similarly, there are evil people, like Hitler, Bin Laden, Saddam Hussein and so on. How do you identify the evil people in real life? There are some characteristics to look for:
1. Totally, totally self-centered: They don't care about anyone else except their own pockets and their own welfare. They are ready to cut someone's throat if there is a gain for them. Social service or helping others is not their concern at all. If they engage in such activities, there is an inner agenda behind it.
2. Angry: Often their anger is uncontrollable. They can be provoked without any obvious course or motive. It's as if they are angry for anger's sake.
3. Violent: Often their rage leads to violence. They easily hit others or pick fist fights. When they are violent, they lose all control and lose their mind. They take delight in killing bugs and worms.
4. Homicidal or suicidal: They can be either homicidal or suicidal for no compelling reasons at all.
5. Negative: Their perception often is focused on the negative aspects of life. They always see something bad in everything. Before they open their mouth, 'no' rolls off of their tongue. They seldom say 'yes' easily. You cannot get approval for anything from this person.
6. Illogical: Their arguments are illogical. They shift their argument from minute to minute and don't ever know where they are. You can easily see that there is something wrong with them.
7. Hate of psychologists and psychiatrists: It is very difficult to get these people to a mental health appointment. Deep down inside, they know their issues and want to avoid dealing with them.
8. They deny: These people are in denial of everything. They don't want to look at their mistakes, but think that they are the smartest and most successful and everyone else is not.
9. They curse: They curse anyone who doesn't agree with them or crosses their path. The first word they use is 'die.'
10. They are users. They are shameless and use others for their own benefit. They always stop to conquer, but if someone else asks for help, they take off.
11. They are ungrateful: They forget to help the people who have helped them. They are totally ungrateful. They never acknowledge others, but on the contrary, ridicule them.
12. Their way is the one highway: Either it's my way or no way, is their policy. They don't mind being lonely, but they are unwilling to compromise. They never accept it was their mistake. Often, the mistakes are 'somebody else's' and not theirs.
13. Insecure: They are insecure. They are the most insecure people in the world. They think that the whole world is against them and often they suffer from low self-esteem problems.
14. No true friends: They often have no true friends. They are very private and closed. As a result, there is nobody around them. They have a big trust issue. Not only do they not trust others, but themselves.
15. They have an opinion on everything: They never accept their lack of knowledge. They always have something to say, however, absurd it may be. They are ready to advise others often.
16. When proved wrong, they yell and scream: They don't take criticism well. When proved wrong, they yell and scream.
17. They often have a split personality: They often speak contrary to what they have inside.
Now, the million dollar question; what do you do with them? STAY AWAY! You can't do very much!
If for some compelling reason you have to be together, then you can try to do something. Consciously send them your love energy and keep sending it till you start seeing a difference. At that time you know for sure that you are enforcing a change and soon that person would be under the control of your love energy. I have done that to many people and have had outstanding success.
If you'd like to know the techniques, I can help you.
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