But, have you ever thought when do you belong to yourself? I never did in my life. Recently I met an octogenarian friend – 82 to be exact –   living alone. His wife died of breast cancer, a decade back. He has two daughters; one resides at Laxmi Nagar – about 8 kilometers away -- the other is in far off America.  Six months ago he had terrible fracture in the right femur bone. An inserted steel rod helps him to stand erect and walk, limping with a stick. Casually I paid a visit to him. Newspaper headlines screams, over 70% of elderly in the capital and the NCR suffer from abuse and loneliness. So, my plain question to him was,” don’t you feel lonely?”

His crystal clear answer was, “No, I don’t.”

How do you manage?

I have many diversions: I write; I watch TV; read news paper, play chess, do homeopathy and I cook. I don’t feel lonely. And, at times when I am fully alone – I feel that is the time I belong to myself.

He writes well. His short pieces bring delight to the readers of community news letter on regular basis. He participates in story telling sessions. At this age he is never in short supply of zest to contest in the periodic chess tournaments. He distributes homeopathic medicines to the needy.

What a grand thought: belonging to nothing but to one’s own self. It never occurred to me nor have I heard from anybody so far. I am a real frog in a well. With my crude way of thinking probably I couldn’t grasp the full significance of the idea too. All the time we seek out external objects to be identified with for self-assurance and solace, but never for a moment, pause to look inward and get merged with oneself – fully subsumed with infinity. Where is the time to feel lonely? Of course, I am aware of other conflicting views on the topic. This one leads to novel trajectory of thought, and surely uplifting.

Any lonely soul listening?