A page out of my personal experience- for today’s young married couples

I am father of two. Elder one is a boy and younger a girl. Touch wood! With God’s grace, they maintained 90% through out with out any tuition. Full credit goes to my wife who is a graduate in Chemistry. My involvement was limited to teaching them Plan-do- check –act and helping them to limit their study time to 2 hours a day. My wife used to say, ‘in other places children go to the study room 10 minutes ahead of expected arrival of the father; where as, your children waits for your arrival time to close the books’.

Main reason for introducing the system was that I could take my family for outing only after 7 o’clock. Our family had a nick name ‘night riders’ among our friends and relatives. We have our dinner at 7.30 and leave the house around 8 Pm and returns before 10. This was a practice for past 18 years. Now the routine has become integral part of the family life.

Both of us wanted to remain focused on our children. We never wanted our personality inherited in them. With God’s grace, it remains as a binding force in our life.

All our difference of opinions and fights were in the absence of the children. Sometimes, I used to feel giving a bloody slap at her face for the ‘nonsense’, according to my perception. Perhaps, she would wish she is a man that she could slap me for my nonsense according to her perception. Nevertheless, by practice we learned to control ourselves. In the process, no one in the world is aware how bad our difference perception is, or I ever had to lift my hands. It is very obvious such difference is bound to happen because two background and styles we are brought up. If there is no difference in perception, it needs to take as granted that something is wrong with either of us.

How we learned this art of control is by complete submission to our Divine Mother , “ Narayani”. The Sanskrit word meaning of ‘NARAYANI’ is ‘narasya ayini’ means ‘refuge of our soul’. Both of us tell our difference in our mind to ‘Narayani’ and leave it her to judge who is right who is wrong. By the time our children are back from school, we are normal as usual.