Are Marriages really made in heaven? If that was the case, why so many failed marriages around us, why the entire discontentment, the lack of trust, the stress, the unspoken sadness around us?

I am no authority on this aspect but I would like to present my perspective on marriage. It may resonate with some and it may not with others but I believe having seen and experienced both sides of the coin, I understand this union at a much deeper level.

Marriage is a sacred contract between two souls who decide to make their journey together by the way of living with each other, being with each other in the closest way possible in mind, body and soul. Having said that, there is no one who can say if the relationship was only meant to be till that relationship surfaces karmic patterns or life situations or understandings about one’s own self or it was meant to be a lifetime of togetherness. For that matter, each relationship is karmic. There is a reason for why two souls get attracted to each other and form any relationship. The difference between any other relationship based on love and marriage is the “commitment”.

Based on my understanding of the sub-conscious mind & the karmic patterns, somewhere when a soul decides to experience a karmic relationship with another soul by way of marriage, there are deep emotions of “commitment” and “responsibility” that are inevitably going to be a part of the lessons. Any other relationship can be opted out the moment a person fails to experience love in it but marriage, especially in the background of the Indian Culture is a bond that experiences much resistance if one decides to walk out.

So how does one decide what is the best thing to do. To stay or to leave?

Each relationship brings about negative emotions that overshadows the love that was the base of it primarily because there are negative emotions in our own soul that were stuck and that respective relationship is causing them to surface. The first and foremost thing to do is to remember that each of that negativity is not to be submitted to or judged but it is an emotion that wants to leave.

These emotions that one could experience with their spouse including lack of trust, lack of love, hurt, pain, sadness, suffering, abuse etc are actually stored in the one who is experiencing them where the spouse is only becoming a medium for the conscious mind to register them. It is possible that these emotions were consciously created in this lifetime during the phase of the relationship or at times it’s possible there is no logical root to them from this life. In that case, most certainly the roots will lie in past lives where certain emotions were created either with regards to the concept of marriage or that particular soul who is the spouse or both.

For the soul, a marriage is another way to experience a close bond. The soul has married so many times with different mates over lifetimes and the sanctity we hold in our consciousness for marriage, our souls may not completely resonate with them. At the same time, there is a reason why the soul being fully aware of the commitment that is expected of marriage in human form in a particular birth will choose to experience it with another soul. The very definite idea is to resolve karmic issues with the other soul and reach a state of unconditional love. Once that state is achieved, it will depend on the further lessons and journey of both the souls in question as to if their relationship is meant to move together in that life or they have their own paths charted out with other soulmates.

The idea is not to lower the importance or sanctity of a marriage but it is about realising that like each relationship is different and on the soul level it’s meant for our growth, each marriage is also different and it carries its own destiny.

In all cases, staying in the marriage and resolving the differences to the extent where there is no backlog, no history, no negativity experienced between the two souls is a must for a resolution to come. If it’s not possible to do while staying together, it can be done by staying away but forgiveness between the two souls is imperative for their growth. Post that, if what is left is love, they may decide to spend the rest of their lives together or lees they will find their own journeys in their highest good.

Ultimately, my understanding is, there is no point judging ourselves or staying in a marriage for any other reason but love. All other reasons are karmic and they must be resolved. If one sacrifices in the name of any relationship, it is like agreeing to punish one’s own soul in order to save others which means one creates karma with one’s own soul which also at some point will need to be dealt with. Our children maybe young bodies but are stronger souls many times than us and they also choose to experience difficult childhoods and challenges for they want to grow through them.

In such cases, accepting the state of the marriage and actively using New Age Therapies to resolve the deep seated emotions will make sense to get closer to and be guided by one’s sub-conscious mind and hence move towards peace and happiness. Finally, it’s all about transforming us into better and more compassionate individuals. Finally, it’s again about staying in love and light!

About the author

Minal Arora is one of the most successful past life regression therapists in India. She prides to have done her internship under the famous author of “Exploring the eternal soul” and “Healing the eternal soul”, Andy Tomlinson from the Past Life Regression Academy in Singapore. Minal swears by the concept that scientifically helps to release stuck emotions of the past and prosper liberation of mind! A successful IT professional, she was drawn to PLR for gratifying her inner quest for doing something that had deeper meaning and purpose in life. She feels blessed and guided to be able to help her clients and feels satisfied for paying her part in their journey. She practices New Age therapies like Past Life Regression (PLR) and Serenity through Surrender (SS) to resolve sub-consciously driven concerns and can be contacted through www.healingcottage.in or www.pastlifeconnection.com or by writing an email at minal@healingcottage.in

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