Áre you a true "trustee" of  your children?. Not much parents  will be able to answer this question positively. Before answering that, one has  to  ask onself "Am I a real Christian ? If so, how will anyone come to know of it?". A real Christian  will be known by his deeds. He will turn out to be a real parent, a real "trustee" of children.

For bringing up children in the right direction, parents should give them unconditional love which should be felt by children. Then they will know that parents love them so much even when they scold or punish them. We compete to build big houses but fail to build homes - home sweet home. A child can grow only in a home  where harmony  between parents is the rule and love flows unconditionally.

Parents have to be good emphathetic listeners listening with brain and heart and spending enough time  with children.  Then children will open up their minds. Then be assured that  they will be with you when  you need them the most  during your old age. If not, a time will come  say  by 12 or 13 years age when children stop communicating with parents. ' Yes' or 'No' alone will be their answers to all your queries. Reason-  when they as kids  wanted your presence, time and attention, you were too busy  making wealth for children.

More than your bank balance and wealth, children give more importance to what they make by themselves. What they expect from you is  the most are proper guidance, correction and direction and not wealth.

Make your children understand the sacrifices you make.  Then they will become your bigggest supporters. Teach the value of even a single paise. Children respect  parents who make reasonable restrictions in spending money. You can see your children grow up with great maturity in money matters.

Would  you love your children to be like ' broiler chicken?'. If not, allow them to  do things by  themselves and  also make mistakes. From mistakes  they learn  provided you point out what went wrong and give them right options to choose.

Teach children values by your actions. If a girl who told  her parents the truth that she broke a glass is scolded or punished, are we not crucifying her for telling a truth ?.  Will she ever tell truth in future ?. What values  do we teach by this ?

In old age, parents should feel that they  have played  their role as true the 'trustee' of their children and  children should  feel that  that they had  a wonderful parents .Parents - try, try, try- without trying, nothing is possible. Yes,  you can become a wonderful parent provided you try.   It is not too late for 'you' and 'me' to try and prove it..