Jai Jawan! Jai Kisaan! Jai Mahila!!
Guys. I am off to Paris in an hour to launch 'Les Nuits aux Etoiles," which is the French translation of an early novel, 'Starry Nights'. The book is being published by France's most prestigious imprint, Actes Sud. And the event is being hosted by Yves Carcelle, who is the President of the LVMH Group. I am fortunate to have two such powerful brands for my French debut!!
All set for the soiree . And all set to answer questions on the luscious Carla Bruni ....plus, anything else the press throws at me. Wish me luck!!
This appeared in the Asian Age\Deccan Chronicle :
Ji
haan.What Soniaji wants, Soniaji gets! God is also great, ji! He likes
Sonia. What a bhet! That too one day after International Women’s Day.
Am I thrilled to bits?? Nope. I have never been pro-reservations. And
that cuts across the board. I don’t believe in subsidies and quotas.
But my far worthier sisters say, I am being silly about this. Super
sensitive and even selfish. Theek hai. I guess we should be rejoicing,
and eventually I too may get co-opted. But till such time, I’m keeping
the bubbly on hold. My biggest and main concern is that the bill does
not remain a naam ke vaastey grand gesture, in the same tradition as
our Jai jawan! Jai kisaan! programmes, which sounded terrific as
slogans and won elections for the then leaders…. but left those poor
jawaans and kisaans exactly where they were…where they still are.
I am in distant Dubai, attending the Emirates Writers’ Festival,and it
seems slightly surrealistic to be talking about the women of India
being on a collective high, especially to the ladies here, who look
away uncomfortably and change the subject when the topic of womens’
rights comes up. A lovely woman who has written her first book based on
a true story of a thirteen year old local girl who’d been married off
to a much ,much older, much ,much married man, lowers her voice to
confess, “ We have to be careful what we say… and who we say it to. I
would have preferred to write a stronger book, but I also knew it
wouldn’t get published.” A poet seated at the same table, nods his head
sympathetically, but says nothing. His own poems on exile are filled
with yearning for a different life. But even poets know when to hold
their tongue.
Later, the same evening, I listen to Martin Amis, the
star of this festival, talk about dealing with age. He discusses vanity
and fear, insecurity and loathing. I wonder whether his talented wife
is in the audience listening to him, and where she fits in,especially
when he reads a passage from his latest book ‘The Pregnant Widow.” My
mind is only half here. It has been a tumultuous two days in India.
We’d like to believe the world was wearing blinkers and not watching
the disgraceful Rajya Sabha drama… the shame and chaos … those
demeaning demonstrations of protest from so-called ‘netas’. I cringed
at the images and wondered whether Lalu is so used to dealing with
cows, he can’t tell the difference between his farm animals and us ! As
for Mulayam, what is it they say about taking the man out of his
mohalla but not the mohalla out of him? Hours of unbearable suspense
later, came the historic voice vote. Strangely enough, the world
remained somewhat impassive and indifferent to India’s ‘Mahila Moment’.
When the topic did come up over dinner here in Dubai ( in a vague and
distracted way), a few British journos said something like, “ Splendid!
Splendid! Jolly good show.” That response depressed me still further.
Earlier in the week I had attended a panel discussion on the subject
and come away disheartened by the shallow and superficial reactions
from some of the participants who seemed to believe all it takes to
alter the destiny of our women is a piece of legislation. A magic wand
waved by India’s fairy God mother, Sonia Gandhi, and voila ! we’ll be
singing, ‘Aall eez well.” I wish I could share their optimism. I wish I
could believe India will witness dramatic change on account of a
percentage in parliament that is meant to take care of its most
neglected resource – women. ‘Songs of Sorrow, Songs of Joy’, was the
poignant title of an exhibition featuring the works of several women
artists. The driving force behind the show (which was a fund raiser for
‘SPARROW’, a valuable archival centre), is the committed and dynamic
Dr.Laxmi who is trying to preserve the oral and visual histories of
women. At the elegantly presented function on the lawns of the
jewel-like Bhauji Lad museum, Laxmi spoke about the house sparrow in
India, which faces imminent extinction and when she mentioned how it
was possible for that sparrow to create a ball of rice out of each
painstakingly picked grain, it said it all. Through that single image,
it was possible to predict the future of our women. Even as Laxmi and
the artists present celebrated the successful start of the initiative
which had managed to raise over ten lakh of rupees via a raffle, the
aftermath of the rowdy, disruptive scenes that had interrupted the
smooth passage of the bill a few hours earlier, were being played and
replayed on news channels across India. We were left to console
ourselves that with any luck, perhaps ten years down the line, Songs of
Joy would outnumber Songs of Sorrow, at least for those women who would
directly benefit from the bill. But despite our feelings of hope and
cheer on that mellow evening, perhaps most of us knew in our heart of
hearts, it would be foolish to over-invest in the instant magic
promised by this breakthrough legislation.
About the same time as
we were coming to grips with the euphoria of the moment, history was
also being at the Oscar’s ceremony, with the first woman ever to win
the most coveted statuette ( the award for Best Director). And oddly
enough, I thought to myself, “ Why the hell are we making such a big
deal out of this? Doesn’t that say something? Something not terribly
impressive? If we need to draw attention to the winner’s gender, and
make it into a battle of the sexes, we are guilty of continuing the
stereotype… of segregating winners and losers, not on the basis of
merit, but according to the male-female divide. This is astonishingly
passé, even embarrassingly old fashioned. Ms. Bigelow’s win had nothing
to do with her being a woman. At least one hopes so. For if it did, it
would be yet another strike against feminism in its more evolved avatar
– ooops, wrong word!
Back home in India, Lalu is still waiting for the cows to come home.
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