Situations that taught me a lesson!

It’s often seen that you come across a lot of moments where you wish you could do something to bring about a change for the better. I met with few experience like this and even though I didn’t say a word or do a thing at that minute I realize now that sharing would an idea!

Case I

Location: In a medical store

Characters: Husband and wife

Time: 8 pm

I happened to meet this couple; the wife is pregnant and requires medicines. The husband has only 500 rs excluding the money to go back home. And bill sums upto 700. The husband sensible says “we’ll get medicines for 500 today and when that finished I will purchase the rest” Sensible man! That what went through my mind! But unfortunately the wife would just not understand. She starts crying. And her tears end up making a scene is the medical store. The husband just stood helpless not knowing what to do.

My comment: Yes! Not all are blessed. Some people say she has mood swings when she pregnant. Well not really! She is just making a scene and making a fool out of her self. God knows if they went back home and applied for a divorce! It’s sensible to want medicines especially when you’re pregnant, but she always has a option to work, why can’t she do that. Nope! She opts to make her husband work while she sits and home and have a good time. People say women should work, so that they become more independent, well I say women must work so that you don’t make a fool out of themselves like this!

Case II

Location:  Church: a wedding

Characters: Mother in law and her cousin

Time: 12 pm

When people share their wedding woes why is it so difficult for people watching them enter their new life to be happy for them? The mother of the groom, sit besides her cousin. When in movies the mothers are so proud of their children this mother deserved a slap right across her face! The cousin of the mother in law ask her, “your sons so handsome, why her? So ugly and dark! “And mother goes “well! Kids these days, he said he liked her and wanted to marry her, what can I say. im so embarrassed to have a dark colour daughter in law” sadly , this came across the brides mothers ears, and she  just fell into tears , thought people often thought they brides mother cried over the fact that her daughter is getting married I could just see her cry for what she just heard.

My comment: If your son marry a dark skinned girl it’s not a big deal for me. But a whack right on her cousins face for passing a comment like that!  I think the compellability should be taken into consideration. Sad part of this story was! They bride soon came to know that the mother in law passed such a comment on the wedding day and the cousin was someone who just couldn’t keep her mouth shut! The bride and the mother in law had a talk and the solved up the issue! This is quite uncommon where the mother in law and daughter in law sit and talk! all I have to say is “ black or white , your sons getting married to her , she is a part of your family, if you speak bad, then you speak bad about your own family no one else’s “

Case III

Location: A middle class family

Characters: A father, a mother and a 9 year old child

Time: Morning (before sending the child to the school)

One day the 9 year old mothers hold on to her and says “do you want a brother or sister?” the 9 year old was so excited she came to school with chocolates and everyone was so happy for her. The baby boy was born and her joy was beyond what I could imagine. When this 9 year old girl, reach 16 years (that is 10^th STD- before she leaves for her last board exam paper) her mother goes to her younger brother and say “ do you want a brother or sister ? “ she heard those words and I still remember how her eyes were sinking when she came to school. When she broke the news to us , the first thing that reminded me was how opposite the reaction was.

My comment: It every mothers dream to have a big family and have more kids! I felt like welcoming them to the reality by saying “ were you sleeping all this while and thought of your dream to have a baby one fine day”9 years and 16years gap ! Well I still remember how this girl explained to me how she felt she was a mother of you naughty boys!  I’m not saying having babies is a wrong idea. All I want to share is, teenage is a full of mixed feeling and emotions and on top of that a pregnant mother. Think of life from her point. 

Rest of the story: she left home, she joined a hostel. Hardly comes home or calls them. Though the parents regret now, wish they had the mind to think before their actions or atleast spend time and explain to her why it is important! To sum up I say “to all mothers who want kids, please don’t take 9 to 16 years to realize you want one more kid”

Case IV

Location: School

Characters: A class room of privileged kids & a mentally challenged student

Time: school hours

The first day of my 6^th std. Our classes were shuffled and on the urge to know if me and my best friend is in the same class. I realize there is a new student. I look forward to meeting him as there is only one new student in my class. The assembly is over and we all move back to our class rooms. The new student still hasn’t arrived. We started distributing the brand new books, while I was glazing at those books. I see a child, not so like us, slightly different coming towards my class with his parents. I it must be the new student. He walks into the class and the teacher goes “this is our new classmate children, (here even the teacher hesitated to hold him hand). 11 years of my life and I have never seen someone like him. I hesitated to talk to him initially, I saw my classmates started to move from their seat when he came next to them. Or started screaming when they asked him what their name was.

My comment: 11 year old children might have been hardly exposed to this situation but it was truly a blessing to meet him! Not everyone is lucky or blessed, though we sit at home and crib if you were fatter or thinner or had more pocket money. All this boy asked was for “wish someone would be my friend” Something that happened even without him knowing, why is he avoided. I wondered as a 11 year old if this is how I was suppose to respond

Rest of the story: one boy from my class went and sat next to him and talked to him and the new boy just felt welcomed. Seeing that I realized as a human I have no right to discriminate him or just avoid him. Somehow this new kid in class felt at home soon. all of made sure when ever we went for field trips he was there and when he was absent , one of us would call him up at home. Though we made him happy later. I still wonder if the first few days mark stay in his heart. Don’t know where this boy is now, but I sure hope he is doing well!

I wrote these cases not to accuse anyone or offend anyone. These are just 4 cases where I wish I would have reacted better. So that I wouldn’t have said “I regret not reacting”. There are more cases and situations in life when you wish you slightly above the others to just teach them a lesson but it also makes you realize how much more you need to work to actually teach them a lesson. So if you ever come across these 4 situations in life remember my comment and react sensibly, because people always judge especially when it is about others life!